What A Marriage Needs
Nemu sesuatu nih… Ini kompilasi gua dari berbagai sumber… Gua ambil point nya aja. Gua bilang bagus untuk pasangan yang mau dan yang udah married. Sekedar untuk renungan.
A Marriage Needs…
Love and Commitment
The view of relationships and marriage is this: when the couple are going out, they are merely involved; when they become engaged, they are still only involved, maybe more deeply; when they publicly exchange marriage vows, that’s commitment.
The meaning of the marriage ceremony is the commitment. The difference between involvement and commitment is the same as the difference between bacon and eggs.
‘What has bacon and eggs to do with marriage?’
‘With bacon and eggs, the chicken is only involved, but the pig is committed.’
Let this be a pig marriage.
Trust and Understanding
A newly married couple went for a walk together in a wood, one fine summer’s evening after dinner. They were having such a wonderful time being together until they heard a sound in the distance: ‘Quack! Quack!’
‘Listen,’ said the wife, ‘That must be a chicken.’
‘No, no. That was a duck,’ said the husband.
‘No, I’m sure that was a chicken,’ she said.
‘Impossible. Chickens go “Cock-a-doodle-doo”, ducks go “Quack! Quack!” That’s a duck, darling,’ he said, with the first signs of irritation.
‘Quack! Quack!’ it went again.
‘See! It’s a duck,’ he said.
‘No dear. That’s a chicken. I’m positive,’ she asserted, digging in her heels.
‘Listen wife!, That …is …a …duck. D-U-C-K, duck! Got it?’ he said angrily.
‘But it’s a chicken,’ she protested.
‘It’s a blooming duck, you, you…’
And it went ‘Quack! Quack!’ again before he said something he oughtn’t.
The wife was almost in tears. ‘But it’s a chicken.’
The husband saw the tears welling up in his wife’s eyes and, at last, remembered why he had married her. His face softened and he said gently, ‘Sorry, darling. I think you must be right. That is a chicken.’
‘Thank you, darling,’ she said and she squeezed his hand.
‘Quack! Quack!’ came the sound through the woods, as they continued their walk together in love.
The point of the story that the husband finally awakened to was, who cares whether it is a chicken or a duck? What was much more important was their harmony together, that they could enjoy their walk on such a fine summer’s evening. How many marriages are broken over unimportant matters? How many divorces cite ‘chicken or duck’ stuff.
When we understand this story, we will remember our priorities. The marriage is more important than being right about whether it is a chicken or a duck. Anyway, how many times have we been absolutely, certainly and positively convinced we are right, only to find out we were wrong later? Who knows? That could have been a genetically modified chicken made to sound like a duck!
(For the sake of gender equality, it’s usually switched around the one who says it’s a chicken and the one who says it’s a duck.)
Forgiveness and Gratitude
After a wedding ceremony in Singapore a few years ago the father of the bride took his new son-in-law aside to give him some advice on how to keep the marriage long and happy. ‘You probably love my daughter a lot,’ he said to the young man.
‘Oh yes!’ the young man sighed.
‘And you probably think that she is the most wonderful person in the world,’ the old man continued.
‘She’s so perfect in each and every way,’ the young man cooed.
‘That’s how it is when you get married,’ said the old man. ‘But after a few years, you will begin to see the flaws in my daughter. When you do begin to notice her faults, I want you to remember this. If she didn’t have those faults to begin with, son-in-law, she would have married someone much better than you!’So we should always be grateful for the faults in our partner because if the didn’t have those faults from the start, they would have been able to marry someone much better than us.
Update: Gua nulis posting ini tuh sesaat sebelum jam makan siang. Pas gua pulang makan siang, Esther cerita kalo Nur (salah satu pembantu kita) tadi sempet minta tips tentang berkeluarga ke Esther, karena dia ngeliat Esther dan gua kok akur banget. Nah Nur… tipsnya ya di atas ini nih… 🙂